Rewrite your scripts

From the moment you were born, you were trying to make sense of the world. Those experiences, those inputs, shaped your values and beliefs about yourself and other people. As you grew, you wrote your story. On average, 80% of what we believe to be true comes from what we see, hear, and experience.

You received most of the important developmental messages by mostly non-verbal injunctions or restrictions (negative), or permissions or approval to do something (positive). These messages became your coding, programming your brain and body with new life scripts or adding to the ones you already had in place.

This coding and the scripts we write is established over time, through repeated experience. As a result, each person responds differently to any messages (positive or negative) they hear or actions they see. We all interpret this input based on our prior experience and the scripts we’ve already written.

Negative Scripts

Some of the scripts we learn as a child are empowering, some are not. Take a moment to think about all of the negative scripts you accumulated during childhood. Typically these scripts include the word “don’t” and can sound like:

  • “Don’t be like that”
  • “Don’t do that”

Then there are the indirect cues, such as telling a child how to dress or who they should and shouldn’t play or be friends with. Did you experience that? How about someone telling you whether it was okay for you to express emotions, perhaps calling you a “cry baby” or a typical toxic-masculinity phrase like “Men don’t cry”. You may have been told or made to feel that you didn’t belong in a place/group. As a result, many of us grow up with an inner critic, a voice that undermines our confidence with “You’re not ……. enough”.

Empowering scripts

Positive scripts shape how we think or feel about our ability to succeed in life. As a result, when we’re encouraged, loved, and supported, our brains and bodies receive empowering coding, and we believe in ourselves and our abilities. These scripts empower us to achieve our goals, build healthy relationships, and have respect for ourselves and others. Positive scripts include:

  • “Yes, you can….”
  • “Keep trying, you’ll get there”
  • “Believe in yourself”

To change this programming it takes time and effort. The good news is, you can do it. With a little bit of work and some help from me as your coach, what we may think is impossible today, could just be possible tomorrow.

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